What does 'normal' mean to you?
Posted on Mar 9th, 2008
by 
Jon
Jon
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for March 09, 2008:
"Acceptable." When somebody...in or out of the therapy room...tells me something like they have this thing for black stockings and tiaras and say "Do you think that's normal?", what they are really asking is "Is that acceptable to you, Jon?...Are you going to reject me because of my proclivities?" As long as there's no disrespect in it, I tend to accept these kinks we do and are...
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And I would add that the “societal norm” seems to me to comprise a patchwork of consensual hallucinationatory totems and taboos all unweaving in the busyhandedness of postmodern relativistic pluralism……is it normal to write like this?…J x
I have a tiara,it seems only fair,after all I am a domestic goddess.
No black stockings B.B.? Hummmmmm. Fishnets maybe? That's not norm- … .ahem, I mean acceptable. Oooooopps.
BB….you are a domestic goddess with a flair for blogospherical terse genius and I luv you…
John….I can feel that slippery-slope-of-weekend-bloggy-comment/discussions-on rumpers-pumpers that-is-the-norm-for-my-blog-it-seems approaching…hang on, i'll get my toboggan…..Jon xx
I can't believe you merely “accept” black stockings and tiaras.
Would you be able to generate more enthusiasm if there was a pink tutu, a riding crop and feather duster involved?
Jon, ya are right. A state of mind we sell into.
So the one I'm working with is the anti-insane, the one that Tolle defines quite aptly… [paraphrasing] anyone that participates in activities that will do harm to himself and to those he cares most for would have to be freaking mad. I don't accept them as normal… Crazy people!
Now, moving on… I believe I've got another expectation to defy! At church this morning!
Love, definitely. And please take care.
Sherrilene
Satya-Seer,I own a pair of brown stockings,but most days you'll find me in the ever so popular,jeans and t-shirt.
Although that riding crop sounds good Rapunzel.
That's it,tiara,riding crop,black stockings,and nothing else.
How's that for rumpy-bumpy?
All of that toggery, I'm assuming, may lead to rumpy-bumpy? Yes? Riding crop - Rapunzel, you havn't been photographed for the center of a magazine, have you? It's okay, and may be considered NORMAL here. ;-D
Rumpy bumpy fore play ;-0
Funny thing, no matter how many of us say “yes, I accept you just like that,” it means nothing until they hold to the feeling that “I accept me just like this–and if they don't…they are missing out!”
love and wonder, dear friend,
CG
exactly! CG
And you guys, are you all taking aphrodisiacs or something! jeez… lol the pheremones are flying something awful
I accept all of you just the way you are and I accept all of what all of you have said. Therefore, you are all normal in my book. :-)
Brian.
Excellent Jon!
This is a perfect explanation for normal, “Consensual hallucinatory totems”!!!!!!!!! Spot on!
B.B has me ROTFLMAO!!!
That's some good imagery! LOL ;-)
~off to find a riding crop and tiara…
Hmmm…maybe I could have cut out the black stockings and tiara and inserted something like “I'm a member of the Flat Earth Society”…or “I'm a Marxist-Leninist-Dinosaurist” or “I have my hair worn in a mullet”…..and I could have said that I accept these people…although the mullet thing is somewhat borderline for me as an acceptable coif…anyway it's back to good ole huntinggirl-whoredom-by-way-of-dominatrix….feel free to post me any pics for the health of the blog….
CG…I think yr point here is extremely salient…we can only accept others to the extent that we accept ourselves,…and the decommissionning of the Internal Infernal Critic is paramount in this acceptance…..as well as acceptance, same goes for compassion, love, respect, and all the other qualities we visit healthily upon the other members of our human family…these qualities trace back to a single source which is the nondual recognition of the form/emptiness dialectic…which is wisdom in Buddhistspeak and probably Allotherspeak, too….thanx for prompting this understanding CG….Jon…
PS you'll find the oysters and asparagus tips on the buffet table….
I didn't have to go far for this dominatrix and mullet.
Great - My favorite shell fish and green vegetable.
I am all for the idiosyncrhoncies…as long as no one steps on myself or others. Normal does seem to infer compliance - I have difficulties with being a herd animal.
You should go for it Tom….do some whinnying…maybe BB or Gael will come piggyback with the riding crop and tiara and stuff…never know your luck….BB….ya found a dominatrix and mullet for me…how sweet....
Was your client a guy or a girl? While I begrudge no one their choices in life… if your client is a guy… then in the immortal words of Larry the Cable Guy… 'That ain't right!” lol
I guess if the person was real as opposed to figurative, professional ethics would forbid…j x
Figurative of course
Like Tomski I have difficulty being a herd animal, my mind is usually way ahead of the herd. If I didn't have a date with my toy boy I would join you with the oysters and asparagus, wearing chantilly lace and lace topped stockings, dangling a carrot in front of your noses I prefer carrot to riding crop, now did I hear a whinny? LOL it has been so frustrating reading all this and Gaia wouldn't let me post a comment!!!!!
Weird how the outriders in one generation often become the norm in the next isn't it.
…riding crops…you guys….whatever happened to smith & wesson handcuffs (oh, would that be a western hemi thing)?
oh no, handcuffs can really hurt your wrists. Leather restraints are much kinder.
HA!